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Blogrolls: Everybody, Meet Everybody.

Get comfy; I want to tell you a little story. Actually, it’s a big, long story; that’s why you should perhaps make yourself a snack and put on your jammies and then come back. I’ll wait.

When I started blogging nearly six years ago, the way that online communities were formed was very different from how it is today. Facebook was still relatively new to the general public and for the most part, nobody was on it yet. Twitter started the year before but wasn’t “a thing” yet either.

When I was a newbie blogger*, I found other bloggers by going to the Google Blog Search, throwing in some search terms that interested me, visiting the blogs that came up in the search, and then becoming a regular reader of the ones I liked the best. Yes, really.

And commenting. I commented on everything, all the time.

It was a slow road, but gradually, people started finding me, too, mostly because of my mass commenting habit. Conversations were happening in the comment sections of blogs, bloggers checked out other bloggers via the links in the comments they left, and it was generally wonderful all around.

Eventually I had a great little circle of blog friends: we all read (and commented on) each other’s blogs. We all also had blogrolls, a listing of each other’s blogs so that new readers could find other blogs when stopping to read ours. It was a way of promoting each other, it was a way of making it easy for us to click through from one landing page and read each other’s posts daily, and it was awesome. It was a way of saying, “This is my tribe.”

An aside: one of my very first readers was Kat** in Germany, who I (and my family) eventually visited in 2010! The internet has made the world so small: I love it!

Eventually (in June 2008) I joined Twitter. Twitter was so new that Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore were pretty much the only big-time celebrities who were on it (and still married), and it hadn’t even occurred to businesses to join yet.

Back then, Twitter wasn’t as much about promoting our blogs or tweeting out links to viral videos as it was about having conversations with people. Group conversations on Twitter? Whoa. So cool.

Shortly after I became active on Twitter, someone sent me an invitation to a social media platform called Cre8Buzz. It was sort of like MySpace for bloggers: we all had our own customizable profile page and could promote our blog posts there, but there was a chat window, and there was a place called the Anthill where anyone in the community could post. We could post pictures and audio on our pages, and lots of us had a music player widget full of songs there, too. We spent HOURS hanging out together on Cre8Buzz. HOURS. (Much like we do on Facebook today but–believe it or not–in a way that was much more directly interactive, group-wise.) Here’s an article about Cre8Buzz on Mashable. Notice that nobody has shared it on Twitter or Facebook because those platforms weren’t around in 2007 when the article was published!

Another aside: I remember that for the longest time, Mr. Lady‘s avatar was a LEGO figurine, which is why it was a while before I knew for sure that she was female. It blew my mind. (Shannon: bygones.)

At some point, Cre8Buzz disappeared from the internet–if I remember correctly, the upkeep had become too expensive for “Antman”, the guy who started it. When that happened, people were starting to join Facebook, even though Twitter was still large and in charge for the time being.

People were still reading–and commenting on–blogs, of course.

Over the past couple of years, Twitter, though still very relevant, has become less about conversations and more about promoting one’s self. (You can still have great conversations on Twitter; it’s just that you have to weed through a bunch of links to find the people who are “talking”.) Blog commenting isn’t nearly as much of “a thing” as it used to be, partly because lots of people choose to comment on the post as it’s shared on Facebook, and partly because lots of people just don’t comment anymore, period. That drives me crazy, admittedly, but there’s nothing I can do about it. I don’t have room to talk, either: though I try to comment when I can, it is much easier to read through a bunch of blog posts when I’m not stopping to comment on each and every one of them. Sigh. That leads me to this:

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about community. I have lots of blog friends and a great community, but something has been missing for me and I couldn’t put my finger on it.

Recently I realized that it’s the blogroll.

I haven’t had a blogroll in more than three years. The last time I had one, I had a ridiculous number of links on it (more than 150). They were all blogs that I was reading on a fairly regular basis, but it just got out of hand. It was also a straight list of links with no descriptors and not very interesting at all, so I took it down.

The problem is, I think that blogrolls help form and maintain communities. I believe that you can learn a lot about somebody (a blogger, for the purposes of this post) by checking out their blogroll. Who do they read? Who are their friends?

Blogrolls help us expand our community, and in my personal experience, find some really great friends.

Yet another aside: I’m not looking to go back to the way things were, even though the way things were was great! I just realize that, for me, it’s just a matter of moving forward while pulling an element or two from the good old days: the best of both worlds.

Recently in trying to figure out my plan of action, I started looking around at the blogs I read nowadays to see who has a blogroll and who doesn’t. It seems like a 50/50 split, or maybe 40/60 (40% having blogrolls). Most of the blogrolls I see are short lists of less than ten blog links, with just the titles listed.

One glaring exception is the blogroll of my friend Momo. I ADORE her blogroll, and have loved it since it was added when her blog was redesigned a couple of years ago. She’s got a little blurb listed with each blog link, either a private joke or a funny descriptor, and it is positively adorable. It’s simple but fun, and it makes me want to click. I am fairly certain that I have clicked on just about every blog with which I wasn’t already familiar. That’s the idea of a blogroll right there.

I love her blogroll so much that I totally copied her design to use in recreating my own. I’m admitting it. I’m not ashamed. There. I said it. We don’t read all of the same blogs and I made up my own descriptors and such, obviously, but I basically stole her style (or as my sister would say, I “bit her style”) and am using it on my own blog. So there. (I also notified Momo of this development over the weekend so it’s out in the open. I don’t think she minded. She hasn’t said a word to me about it. Or anything else. Wait a minute…)

That said, her style ended up being awesome for both of us because I am in love with my new blogroll.

My new blogroll does not include every single blog I read: it includes the ones I read most often. I don’t want to go back to having a list of 150+. It’s currently got a few more than fifty links on it (people I’ve been reading since the beginning, people I only met this year at the BlogHer conference, and lots from in between), and I think that’s plenty. Check it out here (and it’s up at the top of the page in my navigation menu, for future reference), and go visit some of my blog friends.

My tribe.

Everybody, meet…everybody.

*Keep in mind that I’m not even considered a first-gen blogger. I have friends who have been blogging for 3+ years more than me! They’ve got some interesting stories, too.

**Kat hasn’t blogged in over a year. ARGH! This is one of those instances in which I’m SO thankful for Facebook and the ability to keep in touch.

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  • Casey September 16, 2013, 7:45 am

    Hooray! Blogs! Reading! YAY!

    I don’t have a blog roll because I’m too afraid of making people feel bad by accidentally forgetting to add them. But I’d like to do something. Maybe I’ll make one of everyone who has been on I Love The Internet. That would rule.

    (and thanks for adding me to yours! It rules!)

    • Melisa Wells September 16, 2013, 7:49 am

      That is the exact reason why I left mine down for more than three years, and I have a feeling that you and I aren’t alone in that worry. I *hate* offending people and I am well-known for leaving someone out when I make lists, even if I’m just tagging on Facebook. That said, my blogroll IS a list of those I read most often and not every single blog I read; I just have to let go and make peace with it, hoping that nobody feels left out if they aren’t listed.

  • Momo September 16, 2013, 7:50 am

    Now I have to update mine, because it’s WAY out of date…I wouldn’t take any down, but I do need to add some. So, I’m biting your style that you bit off of me. THERE. I said something!

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:30 pm

      I can’t wait to see your new and improved blogroll so I can bite your style again when I update mine!

  • Liz September 16, 2013, 7:50 am

    I absolutely ADORE this post!!! Well said!!! I’ve been publishing a blogroll page, up until last year, until Google reader bit it and then I sadly realized there were many folks on my blogroll who did not blog anymore. I am SO copying you, my friend šŸ™‚

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:29 pm

      Copy away…fun blogrolls for everybody! Woo hoo!

  • Momo September 16, 2013, 7:53 am

    Only you could take my good idea and make it better. I LOVE your little foodies lists, etc. I’m stealing that too.

  • Tara R. September 16, 2013, 8:12 am

    I feel like Steve Martin… I read my name! I am somebody!

    Thanks for including me with the Cool Kids. I fondly remember cre8Buzz too, I met so many of my favorite people there and am still friends with them.

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:30 pm

      Cre8buzz was awesome. So much fun there!

  • Tracie September 16, 2013, 8:20 am

    I used to have a blogroll back when I started blogging in 2006. I let it go a couple of years ago when it got so very huge (I was sitting at 150+ links like you), but I do miss it. It really was a big part of the blogging community, and such a great way to meet new people. I’m going to check yours out right now…and go make some new friends. Good stuff.

    And I’m adding “make a blogroll of awesomeness” to my to-do list for this week. It is time to bring back some of the old-school blogging ideas that were really great. This is definitely one of them.

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:32 pm

      Thanks for visiting, Tracie! I’ll have to come by and check out YOUR blogroll!

  • Donna September 16, 2013, 8:25 am

    I have spent this last year trying to get back to the basics: commenting on blogs (instead of my friends’ Facebook pages), trying to engage in a little Twitter conversation (in between sharing links). Putting up a new, more meaningful blog roll really is the next step. Thank you for the suggestion!

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:36 pm

      I love the basics. šŸ™‚

  • tracey September 16, 2013, 8:37 am

    You’re so Sixteen Candles with that title. Love it.

    I want to comment more, but I find myself redirected to sign in pages for this or that and then I get all confused and then they want a password but not THAT password because it’s not “secure” enough and the I create one and the site kicks me back to my email and then I have to log in and by this time? My comment is deleted and I’ve forgotten what I was going to say, even though it was BRILLIANT.

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:38 pm

      Ugh, I know. Having to sign in to leave a comment and then answer a math question or something? Blech.

  • Kari aka Gopher September 16, 2013, 9:12 am

    I love you so much for this.
    Stupid enough, I am crying right now.
    Lots of changes going on with Ellie today and this just hit the right spot today.
    And I love that aka Gopher came up when I went to comment.
    My love for you knows no bounds.
    Thank. You.

  • Shannon September 16, 2013, 10:29 am

    I love this. And you.

  • Marianne September 16, 2013, 11:38 am

    Gosh – you may have just inspired me. I’m technologically lazy and incompetent, but I have also found so many great writers through blog rolls. Ok. This is my New Year’s resolution for 2014. Now where’s Jen??

  • HouseofJules September 16, 2013, 2:01 pm

    And now I’m singing a Culture Club song in my head! (That’s not a complaint) šŸ™‚ xo

  • Lisa @ smacksy September 16, 2013, 3:50 pm

    Thank you for including me (and Bob)!
    Loving you and your roll.
    xo

  • Brandie September 16, 2013, 3:56 pm

    Nice! I used to have a blogroll what feels like eons ago. I had a widget on the blog that did it for me – I like these lists better, they seem more authentic.
    And I agree, twitter used to be more conversations. I still try to comment on blogs but I agree with Tracey … some blogs are easier to comment on than others {related: I hate captcha}.
    But all of that aside, thanks for including me =) I appreciate it.

  • Brook September 16, 2013, 4:07 pm

    Yep, this is EXACTLY it! I haven’t even been blogging that long and so much has changed. Commenting used to be a big thing and now it’s not, and that makes me sad. I had so many great conversations via comments it was great. And just like you Blog Rolls was how I met so many great people, some who are now best friends. It truly is all about community and I hope we can keep it that way. Now I’m off to share this via Twitter.

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:39 pm

      Thank you for sharing this! xo

  • melissa September 16, 2013, 5:45 pm

    Cre8buzz…sigh. *sniffle* Blogroll…sigh…LOVE. Oh how I long for those good ol’ days. Back when blogging was…well…different. XOXO

  • RoiAnn September 16, 2013, 10:19 pm

    Do you have ANY idea how much I appreciate this BlogHistory lesson?!? No?? Well – SMOOCH. That. Thank you šŸ™‚ And I’ve been thinking how I need to actually create a blogroll that isn’t some slapped-up-there oh-i-should-have-this kinda thing that I really have barely touched since i started blogging what feels like mere minutes ago. So. Thank you, as always, for being your fabulous self. And sharing. With all of us.

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:47 pm

      I’m so glad you enjoyed! (“BlogHistory lesson”. haha)

  • Sarah Parisi September 17, 2013, 8:04 am

    Love it! I’m gonna check out some new blogs today šŸ™‚

    I’ve been meaning to do one of my own for a while… I should get to that someday..

  • Chrisor September 17, 2013, 11:55 am

    I love a good blogroll. As much as “everybody knows everybody in the blogging world”, that’s really not true. I like to check and see who others are promoting and sometimes I end up finding someone I never heard of before who is just an amazing storyteller! Excellent post. šŸ™‚

    • Melisa Wells September 19, 2013, 9:48 pm

      Thanks for visiting/reading! I appreciate it!

  • Mrs4444 September 21, 2013, 6:41 am

    Thanks so much for the mention! Did we really meet on Cre8Buzz? It’s been so long I’d forgotten. Loved that place.

    I think you could even trump Momo’s list by adding blog buttons to your blogroll; everyone likes pretty pictures… šŸ™‚

    I enjoyed this post; it was a nice little walk down Blog Memory Lane.

  • TheNextMartha September 23, 2013, 9:35 pm

    I always look at people’s blog rolls. I don’t know why. Maybe they know a gem I haven’t discovered yet.

    Maybe that person could be my new best friend!

    Maybe.

    <3

  • Mags September 25, 2013, 3:03 pm

    I am trying to blog more again and still have an old blogroll on my sidebar…which is how I got here! I was just thinking that I needed some new blogs to read and comment on, and LOVE that this is here. I’ll visit some later when I get home. Yay!

  • Headless Mom September 27, 2013, 8:54 pm

    What a fantastic idea! I will do it too.

    Someday.